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Go around the table reading these cards aloud.
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They are gone. They are no longer with us. It is not important how or why they left.
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All you have now is each other and the memory of them.
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Together we will take some time to remember them. What we loved about them and what we've put up with all these years. All those endearing, funny and sad moments we spent with them.
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This will be bittersweet, beautiful and sad. If you feel like crying. It's okay, take the time. It's all part of the healing process.
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You are their friends, their parents, their child or their lovers. Go around the table telling each other how you knew them. Don't forget to pay your respect by telling the others how sorry you are for their loss.
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Set aside the card that reads "Letting go" aside
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Shuffle the Memorial cards and place them facedown on the table
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Put the "Letting go"card in the middle of the deck for a 30 minutes game or in the bottom third for longer game.
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When you have finish reading the instruction cards start drawing and answering memorial cards.
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Other players may ask you question or give you suggestion about your answers but it's entirely up to you if you want to answer or include these into your answer
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Place the X card somewhere everyone can easily see and reach it.
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If you encounter a card or an answer you don't want to be part of the game, just touch the X card and it will be removed from it. No questions asked.
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If your card is X from the game, simply draw and answer a new card. You can X the cards you draw yourself.
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You can also pass by giving the card drawn to the next player and asking " I would like you answer this question?"
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A card can be passed around the table until someone applies the X-card to it.
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Continue passing, answering and X-ing cards until the "Letting go" card is drawn.
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Each player should take turn answering the prompt on this card.
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One this is done everyone should take a moment to reflect silently (or in a discussion) on the experience they have gone through with the game.
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This will be bittersweet, beautiful and sad. If you feel like crying. It's okay, take a moment to stop the game and take the time to let it all out. It's all part of the healing process.
Whoever feels like going first can read the first Memorial card.
You fought once about a petty thing, but you did have time to address the issue before they left. What was it about and what do you wish you could tell them?
There's one thing they did that was totally endearing. Tell us what it was?
There's one thing they did that would drive you nuts. Remember what it was?
They gave you something once. What was it and why does it remind you so much of them?
You eloped once in secret with them. Where did you go and what memory will you always cherish from that moment?
They took something from you. What was it and why didn't you mind when they took it?
Once they came to your rescue in a difficult situation. What did they do and how?
Once you had to help them overcome a hardship. What was it and what moment of the experience was the most poignant for you?
Which song will always remind you of them and why?
They were mean once to you. How? Have you forgiven them?
You were mean once to them. How? Did they forgive you?
They confided and shared a secret with you. What was it and did you keep it?
You told them a secret about you. Did they bring it to the grave?
You owe them big time. Why?
They owed one. Why?
What's the one thing you wish you could tell them right now?
What the one thing you wish they could tell you right now?
You brought something meaningful to them to their funeral. What was it?
What's the one thing they own you wish they gave you on their will?
What's the oldest memory you have of them? Why has it stayed with you this long?
When the last time you saw them? How was it?
They did something that would always cheer you up. What was it?
They did something that brought you to tears. What was it?
You both had shared idol. Who was it and why did you both admired that person?
You found common ground in hating a specific thing. What was it?
Why were you jealous of them? Are you, still?
What will you miss most about them?